Sibling Rivalry Surrounding an Elderly Relative

As your parents age, there are a variety of decisions that need to be made for them. If there is more than one child in the family, there can be some disaccord between the siblings, trying to determine what is best for mom or dad. Rather than turning an already stressful situation into a war scene, it is important to work together when choosing the appropriate level of elderly care.

Have a Meeting

The best way to ensure that everyone is on the same page is to hold a meeting. It is imperative that every family member attend the meeting, including your elderly relative, if they are of sound mind. At the meeting, everyone should have a chance to say what is on their mind, but in a non-threatening way. There should be a designated leader and an agenda that should be followed closely. This eliminates the risk of anyone becoming accusatory or giving the chance for tempers to start flaring.

Create Actions

The most important outcome of any family meeting is action steps that need to be taken. Someone needs to be in charge of taking detailed notes of the actions that are to take place as well as who is responsible for each action. When every family member is on the same page and agrees with each decision, the life altering choices to move mom and dad or get them the appropriate elder care assistance will be stress free and a decision that affects everyone positively.

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